Fight or Flight
What to do when you lose your train of thought – and how to get back on track!
You’re making a point, zeroing in on exactly what you want to say and then…. A flat line. Mental radio silence. You completely lose your train of thought. You feel your eyes dart around the video call, or worse, video INTERVIEW, and you get that terrible “I look like an idiot” feeling. But guess…
Read MoreThe Secret to Preparing for a Kick-Ass Interview
The interview is in an hour. You want to make a great impression (despite the awkwardness of meeting over Zoom.) You’ve found a clean corner of your house to set yourself up in. You have a sense of what questions they’ll ask… Probably some of the usual ones like: tell me about yourself… and…
Read MoreEver feel unsettled when you speak up? Use this trick to get in the groove more easily
Remember middle school gym class? I know what you’re thinkin’: “Why would I EVER want to remember middle school gym class?” Well, before you stash those memories of smelly locker rooms away (deep into the attic of your mind), remember this: STRETCHING. Before every gym class or virtual workout you do nowadays,…
Read MorePresence Under Pressure Special Edition: The quickest way to evaluate your speaking skills (on Zoom or in-person!)
“I hate watching or listening to myself speak” “It’s painful to watch myself on video” “I feel like I don’t recognize the sound of my own voice!” I know what you’re thinking… “Yep. Same. The absolute LAST thing I wanna do right now is watch myself on video. I already have to watch myself…
Read MoreHow to stay centered (literally & figuratively) when all eyes are on you
Quick reminder before we dig into today’s extra juicy blog post below… I’m teaching a Free Live Masterclass on Monday June 15th at 11am EST. It’s called How To Articulate Yourself Clearly and Confidently When it Matters Most: 5 Game-Changing Strategies for Turning Pressure into Presence–Anytime, Anywhere. It’s the perfect appetizer to our Presence…
Read MoreIf your voice feels tired or strained, try THIS.
At our >>FREE Virtual Communication Skills Workshop<< (happening again next week!), one of the participants asked: “I find that teaching via Zoom puts a lot of strain on my voice and causes hoarseness, is that common?” Answer: YES. That’s extremely common–and easily preventable! If you’ve been wondering why your voice feels more tired…
Read MoreBefore responding to an outburst, here’s how to maintain your composure and speak truth to power.
Welcome to Part III of this month’s F You February blog series! We’re discussing how to air out tension and set CLEAR boundaries without making things worse or pushing people away. Last week in Part II we covered: ✔️The most effective way to deal with indecision ✔️The #1 principle behind which “to-do” to tackle first…
Read MoreInside a client session: How to get the info you need without defending your competence
Ever feel defensive when someone tells you you’re not doing something correctly? Especially when you’re new to the game or to a particular challenge and you’re trying really hard to figure it out? Or how about when you’re making an argument, and someone starts poking all sorts of holes in it? Is your impulse to…
Read MoreHow to manage conversational expectations (and not ruin someone’s day!)
My mother-in-law does this hilarious and very HER thing whenever she hosts a big meal at her house. She’ll make an amazing spread with enough food to feed the whole town, and she’ll put everything out on the table in the kitchen. Before she invites you to grab your plate and “go enjoy the buffet,” she…
Read MoreHow to stay calm and respond effectively when you’re freaking out.
True Story. It was about five minutes into my favorite yoga class (taught by the beautiful Emma Poole). We had chanted our “ohms” and Emma’s zen voice began guiding us through our flow, when all of a sudden, the FIRE ALARM WENT OFF AT FULL BLAST. I instantly fell out of my downward dog and…
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