Dec 11, 2019

How to Make The Most of Holiday Parties And Networking Events (Parts I, II & III)

It’s the holiday season, which means it’s holiday PARTY season.

Are you looking forward to connecting with people outside office life?

Be honest: Does some part of you wish you could skip the small talk, avoid awkward conversations, and *actually* connect with a couple people you’ve been meaning to spark a deeper relationship with?

If so, you’re not alone! And this 3-part video series is for you.

I’m covering big questions like: How to start and keep interesting conversations going – without feeling awkward or forcing anything. I’m also covering more specific questions like: What do you do if you can’t hear the person you’re talking to? Or,  you’re talking to someone way taller than you and you feel awkward looking up at them…

Each video is short and easy to digest. You can watch them all in one sitting, or take your time with one lesson per week. Here are some quick links for ya:

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part I is all about conversation starters. The topics and techniques that’ll take you from small talk to big talk and keep you in that big talk zone (if that’s what you’re going for). Already watched Part I? Click here for Part II.

You’re about to learn my 3-STEP SYSTEM for sparking interesting, organic conversations and keeping them flowing.

Let’s dive in!

Part I: Starting the Conversation

Once you’ve watched, I’d love to hear from you!

Tell me:

  1. How do you typically navigate holiday party conversations?
  2. Do you have any go-to conversation starters?
  3. Which of the strategies we covered resonates the most with you? 

Leave a comment below and let me know.

Part II: Handling Awkwardness

Ever wonder what to do when you’re talking to someone who’s way taller than you or way shorter than you? Or, what to do if you’re having trouble hearing someone or understanding what they’re saying?

Watch Part II to learn exactly what to do in these all-too-common situations so that next time you’re in one of them, you can focus on the conversation you’re having, instead of the obstacles in your way. 

Once you’ve watched, I’d love to hear from you!

Tell me:

  1. Have you ever been in one of these situations before?
  2. How did you handle it? 
  3. Which of the strategies we covered resonates the most with you? 

Leave a comment below and let me know.

Part III: Sending Smart Signals


Let’s say you’ve started the conversation, navigated a couple of awkward obstacles, and now it’s time to dive into the MEAT of your holiday party or networking conversation: The conversation itself. 

Ever wonder how to signal that you’re:

interested in talking to them – without forcing it or coming across as over eager

present and engaged (i.e. you can resist the urge to scan the room for other faces)

ready to park the conversation on a high note and plant that seed to follow up

Well, you’re not alone and this video is for you. 

You’re about to learn 3 crucial conversation “traffic signals,” so that next time you’re talking to someone who you’d like to keep up a relationship with, you know how to steer the conversation in an easy, purposeful way.

Once you’ve watched, I’d love to hear from you!

Tell me:

Which of these signals resonates the most with you?

Leave a comment below and let me know.

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And If you got something out of this post, please share it with your friends and colleagues. 

In the meantime, keep showing up as that you, you most want to be. One intention, one interaction at a time. 

Thanks so much for watching and I can’t wait to see you in the New Year! Wishing you and everyone you love the most rewarding year yet.

All my love,



  1. Nancy on December 5, 2019 at 10:42 am

    Great tips and advice!

    • Brenne Hali on December 11, 2019 at 6:04 pm

      So glad you’re finding them helpful!

  2. Lisa on December 5, 2019 at 1:06 pm

    I typically try to ask someone how they’re doing, but you’re right I could be more curious once they respond. I like the idea that I could try these 3 C-questions when I’m struggling to get the conversation going or if the other person seems more shy than me. Thanks for all of your really great tips.

    • Brenne Hali on December 11, 2019 at 6:05 pm

      Exactly, Lisa. If asking them how they’re doing sparks organic conversation, that’s great. Like you said, this is just a checklist for when you’re struggling to get into it or aren’t sure how to begin. Keep me posted on how using the 3 Cs goes!

  3. Melissa K. on December 6, 2019 at 5:05 pm

    Ooh I like that context idea. Keeps it relaxed and easy to start. And yeah staying curious and finding commonalities are easy things to focus on. Thanks for this. Love the videos, Brenne!

    • Brenne Hali on December 11, 2019 at 6:06 pm

      So glad, Melissa! And thanks for the feedback – we’re gonna keep those videos comin’!

  4. Joe on December 11, 2019 at 6:07 pm

    Curiosity resonates the most with me because it’s how you get past that small talk. It’s an important reminder. And a conversation starter I like is what would you be doing or what career would you have if you weren’t doing what you’re doing now?

  5. Dan B. on December 12, 2019 at 1:15 pm

    I often feel way taller than others and like I’m looking down on them. I never thought to find another area to sit down or frankly even to take a couple steps back. I always thought that trying to adjust would draw attention to it. This helped me realize that it’s more accommodating and making us both feel comfortable to adjust. Thanks. Great video.

  6. Dana on December 12, 2019 at 5:28 pm

    I usually just nod and pretend I’m hearing them but I get what you mean. When you actually want to hear or understand someone it’s important to do that without making them feel embarrassed. Thanks Brenne! As always, you’re very perceptive.

  7. Cara on December 19, 2019 at 1:47 pm

    Great tips, Brenne. You just framed something so perfectly that I’m going to add it to my checklist. How do you gracefully leave a cocktail/networking conversation? Acknowledge them! Even if you don’t intend to follow up, you can leave on a high note by saying, “It was a pleasure talking with you, Jamie. You sound so passionate about your new business. Good luck!” or “It was fun chatting with you, Sam. Your trip to Asia sounds like it was amazing.”

    • Brenne Hali on December 20, 2019 at 11:55 am

      Yes, acknowledge them! Love it, Cara. Thanks for the insight.

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