Apr 16, 2020

How to stop letting others take credit for YOUR ideas

Welcome back to our Virtual Communication Series: Let’s Get Virtual, Virtual! 


During one of our FREE workshop/fundraisers last week, Jess asked this brilliant question:


“What should you do if sometimes when you suggest something, it doesn’t get fully acknowledged, but then a few minutes later, someone will make that exact same suggestion and for some reason people hear it – as if it’s a fresh idea?”


Ugh. My heart aches at this question. And I’ve so been there. The infuriating truth is: this happens way more often to women than men. Not to say that it doesn’t also happen to men. It does. But I mostly hear this question from women (and I hate that).


We still have a long way to go in leveling the playing fields. But today I’m sharing a couple tactics you can start practicing today – tactics within your active control – to help people hear (and process) your brilliant ideas when YOU share them the first time.


It’s true, you can’t control other people’s unfair biases, but you CAN control how you show up and share your brilliant ideas despite those biases.


Watch this 2-minute clip to learn my personal practice around this.


Once you’ve watched, I’d love to hear from you! 


Leave a comment below and tell me: Have you experienced this? How do you deal with it? Could you use some more tips or coaching in this area?


And if you got something out of this video, please share it with your friends and colleagues, so they can benefit from these tips too.


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In the meantime, keep showing up as the you, YOU most want to be. One intention, one interaction at a time.


Thanks so much for watching and I’ll see you next week for Part III!


All my love,



  1. Lauren Cohen on April 16, 2020 at 3:13 pm

    LOVE THIS! I’ve totally had this experience (hello law firms!). In retrospect, I usually would say something or do something with my body language to undermine what I was just about to say – “for what it’s worth,” “this may not be a great idea, but…,” weird eye contact, insecure body language, etc. TOTALLY a victim of getting in my own way. Thanks for the great tip. I’m loving following your work.

    • Brenne Hali on April 16, 2020 at 3:41 pm

      Exactly! Thanks for sharing your experience! So many of us can relate to those impulses. Don’t we owe it to ourselves and our ideas to be heard the first time around? So glad you found these tips helpful and I love hearing from you! Take care and keep up your brilliant work.

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